Hustle.Survive.Chill club!

Fast forward to 2022! Where was I gone for all this time?(assuming that you may pretend to know! LOL)

Well... for most parts!

A. I've Been Hustling like 50%!

B. Been Surviving like 25% aanndd

C. Definitely chilling 25% of my time!(For those who are thinking this as a longtime for chilling, I want to say, "Get some life bruh!")

Disclaimer: These percentages are purely my estimates and not necessarily quantified on paper!

Now that I'm back on my blog, here is what I brought to stick it onto this digital wall/ blog.

I have put the most critical experiences of mine as hashtags on point for the hashtags driven world that we are currently living in! With that quick tiny description of the above image out of the way, let's see what the underlying essence is.

To start off with, what's this club you ask!? For those who can resonate to joining clubs(right from 12th to UG, further to PG, you know, you take time out on weekends and chill! Those type of clubs? Nah! Not literally. This is more of a club thats for the greater good! If you know what I mean) in their lives, here is a club of my imagination! The Hustle, Survive, Chill Club! To become a part of this club, there are a set of requirements that the prospective/ wannabe club members should possess to abide by on the first hand!

#Ban_Missing_Tile_Syndrome

And what do I mean by that? Umm..you know you could typically get started by altering yourself to look at the 99 out of the 100 good things some has done for you and eliminate the one thing that may not have happened as per what you've wished for. Because neither that person is a frigging God nor you! Has God ever been perfect? Nope! Have humans been perfect in the history of mankind? Nope. So why the hell are you stuck with that one petty thing? Let it be bygone! This looks great in theory but how do we approach it? Well I see it in two ways.

A. When you've encountered this in realtime - It's always best to observe patterns in human behaviour, understand the frequency of instances(higher the frequency faster should be your reaction time). Talk to the concerned person, may or may not be at the actual at the moment of confrontation on the basis of the kind of equation you have and the receptiveness of the person in this context. By doing this you are actually making the person aware that he's stuck in a loop of the looking a the wrong tile.

B. Self assessment - it happens with most of us that in a heated argument, we say things and later on when we reflect on it, we realize that we shouldn't have said few things. Well that's a reactionary way learning kicks in. With some amount of this learning at hand, start programming your thoughts to be less biased towards that one repetitive thing that you've been saying. To begin with, you cannot just wake up and quit but you may initiate by rephrasing and slowly move out of this pattern in the 3rd or 4th time of such instances.

#Ban_Unrealistic_Deadlines

This isn't as simple as it sounds. It's more to do with discipline, punctuality and commitment. One side of it is when you get into a situation where you gotta make a decision about a certain thing, you gotta become as realistic as possible. If it takes, break down the goal point into checkpoints and work backwards on the time that you are looking at. This requires some amount of deliberation with people around you, the internet research and spending ample time on to defining the actual deadlines you want to work along.

Cut II, what if someone is fixing a deadline on your face. Be assertive by saying, "We should be able to do it in the defined time frame but let us reflect on it and see whether we are neither overshooting or over committing on the deadline." Once you do this, go back and actually reflect and build your case and present the same. Note this is again gonna be a practice and not theory.

#Work_not_in_Silos

We as humans wish to work in our own bubbles of comfort and not burden ourselves with things that we don't actually work on. Okay! Does this mean that I'm suggesting you to become know it all? Nope. None of have the luxury of time with us to do that! It's always good to know about things that get impacted with your work along with what's impacting your work both at micro(only when mandatory) and macro level. This actually helps us in getting an eagles eye view of what you are working on and how you are contributing as a member of team.

#Kill_Wishful_Thinking

This one is a major enemy! As humans we all tend to get into thoughts which, we wish would happen and the chances of these thoughts turning into reality is an absolute zero with zero hustle. This is a simple but critical thing to handle. I usually start by observing my thoughts and see what is the frequency of these thoughts and what am I doing to convert those thoughts into reality. Now the interesting part is that there are most thoughts on which there is no tangible action and I just become aware that it's just another whim! Now how has this helped me? Well. When I brush those whims away, I'm left with the only thoughts that need my focus. Try it for yourself! Trust me it works!

#Be_Pragmatic|#Embrace_Change

According to me, Life is a package of interesting puzzles which, when one is trying to solve, comes across a range of emotions. In order to find the right balance of these emotions, it is very imperative that we humans look at these puzzles broken down into smaller ones in order to solve them bit-by-bit and arrive at a comprehensive solution rather than just looking at it as a giant conundrum. Now the solutions may or may not come along with changes for one's betterment but when they do, they demand for change, this change could be mental or physical. The toughest part of embracing change is fighting your own mental inertia. It's more like newton's 1st law of motion that we all studied during our schooling. To embrace change, one's gotta have a flexible mindset coupled with aggression and discipline. In totality, it's best that one embraces change while he/ she is embarking on solving a certain puzzle.

#Respect_and_Resonate

When I say respect, I'm not talking respecting someone for their age or elder hood! Respect someone on the basis of how they are positively impacting people around them and obviously you. It's more to do with admiration, appreciation and adoption. The moment we start this expression of respect, it adds to reciprocation. We start drawing inspiration and want to imitate the kind of impact that the other person is creating. This inturn is nothing but our resonance to their frequency of abilities, qualities and actions.

#Listen_and_Beheard

All of us have this problem of passive listening, meaning you hear and not listen. Hearing is more to do with one's physical ability to process and perceive sound. Listening is actually paying attention actively and thoughtfully. The classic way of dealing with this is stopping yourself from the urge to say your point and not cutting the other persons words. Another way is, jotting down your thought on a piece of paper to comeback once the other person is done with his words. Now there can be instances where you definitely have to cut across. That should be done only when you see that the conversation is way off the tangent you are thinking on! You could choose to do this with words of respect and not agression.

The other side of this is being heard. It's as important for one to articulate and express what one's thinking and not supress one's self, just because the other person is aged/ senior/ elderly or whatever! The way to go about this is being assertive and agreeing/ disagreeing using a strong logical backing to your point. In some extreme cases, people don't leave you an option to speak! Well, you gotta create an opportunity. Pick a point which you felt was very interesting, appreciate the thought and drive your point. It always works. Cheers!

That's a lot and enough about the prerequisites. All of these #hashtags sound predominantly(say 90%) like hustle and less to day do with survival and chilling! Not true. Once you are able to abide by these, what remains is only 50% hustle, 25% survival and 25% chill for sure! You don't believe me? Try it for yourself!

Cya until next time!